Telling the Kids

As you can imagine, telling your kids that you will be having a baby that they can't keep to torment as their own little brother or sister can be a bit tricky. We have 3 kids at 3 different ages & comprehension levels.

The oldest (girl) is 12. We told her a few months back when we were still waiting to be matched. We figured she was more likely than the other two to over-hear us talking about it to others and we wanted her to hear it from us first. Since she had already taken those classes we all suffered through in 5th & 6th grades, we knew she'd pick-up on the science behind it all. She quickly grasped the concept and immediately related it to an episode of Modern Family. Can't we all relate to Modern Family at one point or another? Awesome! We checked back with her a few times after to see if she had any other questions. I also talked to her about this blog and she has read parts of it. She asks periodically what the latest news is and when we expect to be "pregnant". She seems excited!

The next one down the line (girl) just turned 6. I broached the subject with her by asking what she would think if Mommy helped another Mommy who had a broken tummy by giving that mommy's baby a cozy home until it was born. She was intrigued and said that yes, that would be pretty cool. She asked how the baby would get into my tummy. (Yikes!) I told her that doctors are super smart and have very special tools to do that. After I told her that we found the couple that we are going to help, she was very excited and was very eager to see their photo. Yay!

The youngest (boy) is 3 and a half. If we brought it up to him now, it would go right over his head. We plan to keep him in the "loop" and talk to him periodically as my belly grows. Someone I spoke to at the Fertility Center told me a cute little analogy to use; "If we saw someone in the grocery store parking lot who had a broken arm, we would help them by carrying their groceries... but this doesn't mean that we'd keep the groceries we carried for them, because they are still theirs." - So cute, I love it!

Now that the kids are on-board, in other news - I have just finished my 1st month of birth control pills and now that the egg donor has been screened (last week), I am assuming she passed and will be getting her cycle in-sync with mine. The fertility center sent me my proposed calendar for all of the meds, blood draws, transfer date, etc. It's pretty crazy. I will have to scan and post below. Looks like we will be starting end of September/early October with meds and a potential transfer date at the end of October!

- Valentine